Reciprocal IVF

Key Takeaways

• Shared Motherhood: Reciprocal IVF lets both same-sex partners share the journey of motherhood: one donates eggs, the other carries the pregnancy.
• Effective Method: It’s a reliable and effective assisted reproductive technology with promising success rates.
• Individualized Approach: Costs can be high, so working closely with your fertility doctor is essential to make informed decisions.

What Is Reciprocal IVF?

Reciprocal IVF, also known as "shared maternity" or "co-maternity," makes it possible for both partners in a same-sex couple to actively participate in the journey to parenthood. One partner donates eggs, which are fertilized with donor sperm and then transferred to the other partner’s uterus to carry the pregnancy. This is a popular practice among lesbian couples and those assigned female at birth, offering a unique way for both partners to be involved in their child’s development.

The Three Steps of Reciprocal IVF

The Reciprocal IVF process includes three main steps and can take several weeks to months, depending on each couple’s situation:

1. Egg Retrieval The journey begins by safely removing eggs from one partner’s ovaries. Hormone injections are given to stimulate the ovaries and enhance egg maturation. When the eggs are almost mature, a final hormone injection is administered, and the eggs are carefully removed using a thin needle.
2. Fertilization The retrieved eggs are fertilized with donor sperm. The fertilized eggs, now embryos, develop in a lab for 5-6 days and are often then cryopreserved (frozen) and remain in this state until ready to be transferred into the uterus. Preimplantation Genetic Testing, if desired, is performed immediately prior to embryo cryopreservation.
3. Implantation The partner who will carry the embryo then generally is given hormones to prepare the uterus. The embryo transfer is a quick and minimally invasive procedure, often taking less than 30 minutes. Should the implantation succeed, the embryo will attach to the uterine lining, allowing the pregnancy to progress normally.

What Is the Success Rate of Reciprocal IVF?

Studies have shown that Reciprocal IVF has comparable or even higher success rates than traditional IVF. This higher success rate is often attributed to the unique dynamics of same-sex couples choosing this method. One study in the LGBT Health Journal found that Reciprocal IVF led to higher odds of a live birth compared to traditional IVF, with live birth rates at 66.1% versus 43.4%.

Costs of Reciprocal IVF?

Reciprocal IVF can be expensive. The first cycle can cost more than $20,000, with additional rounds ranging from $4,000 to $6,000. These costs cover hormone injections, IVF medications, egg retrieval, embryo transfer, legal fees, and fees for donor sperm. Insurance coverage can vary by location, but it is often not included. However, more states and insurance companies are becoming increasingly inclusive, possibly leading to more coverage in the future.

Is Reciprocal IVF Right For You?

Deciding to have a child is a deeply personal choice. Reciprocal IVF allows both partners to be directly involved in their child’s development before conception takes place, which can be very meaningful. While it can be costly and involves medical procedures, for many, it’s the best choice for creating a biological bond before birth. Other couples might prefer less invasive and more affordable options like intrauterine insemination with donor sperm. The best approach depends on each couple’s unique situation and should be decided with your fertility doctor.

Bottom Line

Reciprocal IVF provides same-sex couples a unique opportunity to share the family-building process, combining the latest medical advancements with personal involvement. Despite the costs, it’s a valuable path to parenthood for many.

At Fertility Associates of Memphis, our doctors specialize in helping all patients realize their dreams of parenthood – including same-sex couples, transgender patients, and LGBTQ+ singles. Your journey starts with a consultation to discuss your specific needs and goals. Contact us today to book your appointment.

Disclaimer: This article is for educational purposes only and does not replace expert medical advice. Always discuss your unique situation with a fertility specialist for personalized guidance.